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No pain in love is so hard to bear as that which comes from the impossibility of doing any service for the well-beloved, and no service is so repulsive that love cannot make it delightful and easy. -Somerset Maugham, The Hero

“If you choose to read a book today, it’s not like a hundred years ago, when that was your only option. Today, when you read a book, you’re making a conscious decision not to play a video game, not to surf the web, not to watch a movie, not to turn on the TV. It does require a certain discipline to make that decision.” Neal Stephenson

Anger, resentment, envy and self-pity are wasteful reactions that greatly drain one’s time and sap energy better devoted to productive endeavors. Of course it is important to be a good listener — but it also pays, sometimes, to be a little deaf. - Ruth Bader Ginsburg

Voltaire: “Don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the good.”

you don’t get healthy self-esteem from constantly telling yourself how great you are, or even from other people telling you how great you are. You get healthy self-esteem from behaving in ways that you find estimable.  - Gretchen Rubin, http://www.happiness-project.com

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Boys Party, Age 13

Theme: “Can you make it past twelve?” A sleepover party. 

Invitations: Since it was October, I used an orange cardstock, but you could use any other color. I inset a square of a black and white circular illusion pattern, then on top of that a white square with “Can you make it past twelve?” written on it. I did the same on the inside, except the white square had the party details on it.

Food: Pizza, Chips, Gatorade, Cake and Ice Cream, and Breakfast cereal. (There’s no need to get fancy with food, when kids are thrilled with these!) TIP: I use drink bottles with lids and some way to mark them so kids keep track of their drinks instead of wasting them.

Favors: Items found in the scavenger hunt, equally distributed between bags. Pop Rocks, Test tube candy, pens, and a framed party photo. TIP: Get cheap wallet-size frames at the dollar store - some even come multiples to a pack. Take a picture of each guest with the birthday boy, using a digital camera. While the kids eat cake, upload and print the photos and put them in the frames to go in the goodie bags.

Events: Eyeball Glow T-shirt craft, Bottle marker craft, Glow scavenger hunt/secret code, silly string fight.

Eyeball Glow T-shirt craft: I bought a black t-shirt for each attendee, and painted a large solid circle with glow-in-the-dark t-shirt paint in advance. (So they wouldn’t have to wait all night for a drying shirt.) When the kids arrived, I handed them a tub of permanent markers and instructed them to design an Eyeball on their shirt. I had a paper with several examples nearby in case of creative block. They then changed into these shirts for the rest of the party.

Bottle marker craft: Using pony beads and pre-cut plastic lanyard string, each boy designed a distinctive bead marker to tie onto their Gatorade bottle. Be sure to have primary colors. I also had glow-in-the-dark pony beads.

Glow scavenger hunt/secret code scramble: I bought glow-in-the-dark plastic bugs, eyeball shaped bubble tape, and other such small toys at the dollar store. Then I found a symbol code in my son’s book of secret codes. I wrote a message in code, and then transferred one symbol onto each item. (Some items had “dummy symbols”.) I took a careful count of the items, so we’d know when we’d found them all. (I had my younger son hide them, so he wouldn’t feel left out of the hunt, or be competing with the older boys.)  You could hide them indoors or out, depending on the weather or your situation. The boys had to find the right number of items, decode the symbols, and then unscramble the message. (The message was “time for cake!” So, then we had the cake and ice cream, opened presents, and had freeplay until midnight.)

Silly string fight: This was the “make it past twelve” part. At midnight exactly, I let the boys run out into the yard and spray each other with cans of silly string. With one can each, this lasts only a couple of minutes, but is quite noisy. (Again, dollar store came in handy for these.) This was followed by bedtime. I thought that might be a problem, but it turned out most of the boys were tired by then anyway. I usually have a 15 minute “whispers-allowed” period, and I don’t think I even had to tell them when the time was up.

The rule for the morning is “quietly play gameboys if you’re up before 8am”. Nobody was up before 9am. I fed them regular breakfast cereal and bananas and juice, and then let them have more freeplay time. Pickup time was 11am.

Another note: My son received numerous Blockbuster gift cards for his birthday. I guess this is the “safe gift” for teenage boys. I was at first disappointed, because we rent movies from on-demand. Then we were reminded that Blockbuster rents and sells game system games. (They also sell popcorn, candy, and a few other items.). My son really enjoyed combining several cards to have enough to buy a new game and a couple boxes of candy. So this is not only the safe gift if you don’t know what to buy, but also age-appropriate, and “cool”. (Also, I don’t think you have to have a Blockbuster card to buy, not rent.)

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What moves men of genius, or rather, what inspires their work, is not new ideas, but their obsession with the idea that what has already been said is still not enough.” - Gretchen Rubin, http://www.happiness-project.com/happiness_project/

“A man gets an immense amount of satisfaction from the knowledge of having done good work and of having made the best use of his day, and when I am in this state I find that I thoroughly enjoy my rest and even the mildest forms of recreation.”
“One always has to spoil a picture a little in order to finish it.”
“A man does not work only for the sake of producing, but to set a value on his time. We feel more satisfied with ourselves and with our day if we have stirred up our minds and made a good start, or have finished a piece of work.”
- Eugene Delacroix.

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classics and cookbooks

Gutenberg FREE BOOKS:

Coming Home by Edith Wharton http://www.gutenberg.org/etext/24349

White Fang by Jack London http://www.gutenberg.org/etext/23976

Leaves of Grass by Walt Whitman http://www.gutenberg.org/etext/23979

Spirits in Bondage by C.S. Lewis http://www.gutenberg.org/etext/23975

The Velveteen Rabbit by Margery Williams http://www.gutenberg.org/etext/23980

365 Luncheon Dishes by Anonymous http://www.gutenberg.org/etext/24384

The Community Cook Book by Anonymous http://www.gutenberg.org/etext/24387

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quotes

I’ve been saving these up. In random order, uncategorized, just throwing them out here… 

It is not that science disproves — or tries to disprove — the existence of God. The acts of a transcendent creator are simply outside the realm of anything that science can examine…Ability to explain things without reference to God does not prove or even indicate the nonexistence of God.  … The concept of “good” recedes infinitely, resisting noncircular definition. Even when you find a good definition of “good,” you can’t say why it is a better definition than any other. But people of faith in a normative religion have decided and committed themselves to a code of decent conduct, not because it has been scientifically proven to be “better,” but because they believe it to be better on an admittedly unscientific basis. - Orson Scott Card, author http://www.ornery.org/essays/warwatch/2008-05-04-1.html

 ”I have learned that people put in a corner must fight or crumble, and the rightness of my position can be lost in the defeat of a person.” Bill Pollard, author The Soul of the Firm

Natural inclinations are assisted and reinforced by education, but they are hardly ever altered or overcome.” — Montaigne

The art of medicine consists in amusing the patient while nature cures the disease. - Voltaire”

“If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you’ll never get it done.”
“Absorb what is useful, discard what is not, add what is uniquely your own.”
“Showing off is the fool’s idea of glory.”
- Bruce Lee

Someone who walks into Best Buy and pays for a 47-inch plasma television with a credit card does not comprehend the difference between an asset and a liability. -Robert, Flimjo.com

people are made anxious by free-floating blame that hasn’t settled. Once someone says, “I messed up,” “That was my fault,” or “I’m sorry,” everyone can relax, forgive, and move on. - Gretchen Rubin, http://www.happiness-project.com/happiness_project/

It is always a mistake to wait passively for bureaucracies and government agencies to “save” us.
Jerry White, co-founder of Survivor Corps (formerly Landmine Survivors Newwork), & author of “I Will Not Be Broken: Five Steps to Overcoming a Life Crisis.”

“The steam that blows the whistle never turns the wheel… ”
“Most people would rather die than think. Many often do. ”
“Sometimes the squeaky wheel gets replaced.”
-Dave Northrup http://freakonomics.blogs.nytimes.com/2008/05/15/our-daily-bleg-got-anything-else-like-sht-happens/#comment-570358

…how much security do we want? …A world without failure is a world without freedom. A world without the possibility of sin is a world without the possibility of righteousness. A world without the possibility of crime is a world where you cannot prove you are not a criminal. A technology that can give you everything you want is a technology that can take away everything that you have. At some point, real soon now, some of us security geeks will have to say that there comes a point at which safety is not safe. - Dan Geer’s remarks at Source Boston 2008:

The future is not a result of choices among alternative paths offered by the present, but a place that is created–created first in the mind and will, created next in activity. The future is not some place we are going to, but one we are creating. The paths are not to be found, but made, and the activity of making them, changes both the maker and the destination. - John Schaar

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awesomely free summer reading

The following are all now sans-copyright, freely available, no DRM, etc. offered by Gutenberg.org. Since they offer txt format, you can download it in a way that makes it readable on most platforms, and easy to  transfer to another platform if you need to. Plus, the below were probably on some reading list you were supposed to read at some point anyway…besides being touchstones of our culture. 

Common Sense by Thomas Paine http://www.gutenberg.org/etext/147

The Phantom of the Opera by Gaston Leroux http://www.gutenberg.org/etext/175

The Mysterious Stranger by Mark Twain http://www.gutenberg.org/etext/3186

The Picture of Dorian Gray by Oscar Wilde http://www.gutenberg.org/etext/174

The Arabian Nights by Andrew Lang http://www.gutenberg.org/etext/128

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free books

GUTENBERG PROMISING looking books:
Egocentric Orbit by John Cory
The Capgras Shift by Sam Vaknin
The Aliens by [pseud.] Murray Leinster
Memoirs of Extraordinary Popular Delusions and the Madness of Crowds by Charles Mackay
http://www.gutenberg.org/etext/24518
The Mysterious Island by Jules Verne
Odysseus, the Hero of Ithaca by Homer : http://www.gutenberg.org/etext/24856

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quotes 03/24/2008

“Think like a man of action, act like a man of thought –Henry Bergson.”

it is intrinsically easier to compromise an organisation’s security where that organisation has chosen to entrust its data to a third party - Chris Linfoot

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catchup post

Bad, bad bloghostess. It’s been a month since you’ve posted. What have you been up to?

  1.  Painting a surf mural
    http://www.flickr.com/photos/mrs_helm/2360168752/
  2. Celebrating Easter
    http://www.flickr.com/photos/mrs_helm/2359320497/
  3. Not Christmas
    http://www.flickr.com/photos/mrs_helm/2360137784/
  4. Raising the bars
    http://www.flickr.com/photos/mrs_helm/2359317085/
    http://www.flickr.com/photos/mrs_helm/2359315327/
  5. Looking at cars (mine’s on the right)
    http://www.flickr.com/photos/mrs_helm/2360144666/

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valentines2008




valentines2008

Originally uploaded by mrs_helm

This is our Valentine’s Day 2008! Alex got me he big bunch of flowers (which he rarely does). He knows I like daisies. The boys each made me a card. Aidan’s, on the left, has a little “pocket” message. Leiham’s, on the right, has a cut out heart and a message under a heart door. Then there are the 3 cards I got for each of my guys. I wrote a long sappy letter for Alex. Alex said to get the guys “good chocolate, not Valentine chocolate”…I couldn’t get to Wilbur’s, so I got them big Hershey bars. (I figured if they don’t like them, they can make Smores.)

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